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Questionnaire

Do you avoid confrontation at all costs?


Do you feel humiliated by even the slightest criticism?


When someone you care about is uncommunicative, do you assume that you have done something wrong?


Are you deeply distressed by expressions of anger---even if they're not directed at you?


If your partner is having a bad day, do you feel guilty about being "up"?


Do you expect your partner to recognize and accommodate your emotional needs even though you are unable to articulate them?


When you join a gathering of friends or business associates, do you immediately scan faces to determine the emotional climate in the room?


If a friend or family member has a problem, is it your job to fix it?


Do you internalize perceived slights and insults, unable to address them directly, until a day when you astonish yourself and others with a tearful or angry outburst that might be triggered by a seemingly trivial incident?


At the end of the day, do you review your interactions with others and anguish about your choice of words?


Do you work hard to maintain composure in an emotional situation? Would you leave the room if you felt that your facial expression might "give you away?"


Are you a perfectionist?


If somebody bumps you (in a grocery store, for instance) do you apologize (just for being in the way).


Do you agonize over small imperfections in your garments, home or garden that others would be unlikely to notice?


Do you feel anxiety when other people have problems that you can't solve?


Do you find it difficult to be playful around other adults?


Do you find it embarrassing to be caught doing frivolous things by your partner (like reading a comic strip)?