By
Donald
Scouten,
PhD
.
Are You a Caring and Loving Spouse?
The syndrome called Codependency can be very frustrating because it can turn what we consider to be our very most loving and caring concerns into even greater turmoil and stress. It is essential that we understand the root causes of codependency if we are ever going to be able to help in the recovery of our loved one.
What is Codependency?
Codependency is very hard to define because it reveals itself in so many different ways but we know that it is a lifestyle whose overt symptoms often include manipulations, people pleasing, controlling, withdrawal, agoraphobia, panic attacks, inflexible rules, and depression. Codependency is a serious illness of mind and spirit that must be acknowledged and treated to avoid the devastation of personal relationships that often are associated with it.
Codependency
The gift that keeps on Guilting
Still Unsure About What Codependency Is?
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What Others are saying
Living with another person is hard work, especially if that person was raised in a dysfunctional home. In a "Husband's Guide to Understanding Co-Dependence", Don Scouten talks about this very serious topic in a funny, easy to understand, and respectful way. Because codependent people have a hard time trusting others, have poor boundaries and often see things in black and white, honest attempts to give praise or express love for them are often met with suspicion. Don describes in his book the lessons he learned over 30 years of marriage that helped his wife "hear" what he was really saying. This aided in her recovery and allowed their relationship to flourish. I recommend this book to any man wanting a more loving relationship with his wife.
Karen H, MSW, LICSW Licensed independent clinical social worker
I recognized so many situations that parallel things I have experienced with my wife over the past 13 years, that I found myself re-reading every chapter. I am a voracious reader, and normally read everything straight through. The difference with the "Husband's Guide" is that I found myself studying rather than just reading. Thank you for the lessons I have learned in the process.
Sid H.-Virginia
Why what you are doing is likely to be all wrong
A codependent's global view is likely to be dominated by themes of trust and control and her skills of detecting anything untrustworthy are finely honed. Any attempt to flatter or impress is likely to be read as untrustworthy and reduce your credibility. Furthermore any attempt to help or direct her to a healthier lifestyle is likely to be met with great resistance and disdain since it has the appearance of an effort to control her. Many examples of such misguided but well intentioned interactions are described in this book.
Is it likely that You need this book?
Some authors estimate that as many as 85% of us are touched in some way by Codependency and as many as 17 million suffer from depression. While I have no way to collaborate this number I know that a large percentage of the people I know recognize that either they or someone close to them is affected by codependency. The most common cause of codependency is growing up in a dysfunctional family. While we often think of a dysfunctional family as one afflicted with an abusive or alcoholic parent, the term is much broader. A more common case is that of a loving and caring parent who is simply overprotective and so wants the best for the child that they become controlling and/or intrusive beyond what is reasonable. So it is very likely that this book will help you to understand the upside-down nature of relationship with your wife or someone else that is close to you.
The Right Relationship is Everything
The Husband's Guide to Codependency will help you sort out the many confusing cross-currents in your relationship with a codependent and learn techniques that are useful in putting that relationship on the right track.
Is Your Partner Considering Therapy?
You need insight into the therapy process and how you can best be an adjunct to the recovery. Many of the actions we are likely to consider (even with the best of intentions) are likely to detract from the process and actually hinder progress.
This Could be the Best Investment You'll Ever Make
I'm not going to hit you with the usual hype about how I'm going to raise the price tomorrow or how you'll get all those free extras if you order tonight. No, you can order this book tomorrow or next week or next year at the same $15 price but why wait. The sooner you develop the skills to cope with codependency, the sooner you can resume a healthy lifestyle for you and your family. I've priced this fairly for over 100 pages packed with ideas you can use right now to encourage the recovery of your loved one.
This link will take you to a secure server at ClickBank where you can safely order with a Credit Card or Check (US only for checks) for $15. The Husband's Guide is packaged as an Adobe Acrobat PDF file that can be displayed on most computers. You will need the free Acrobat Reader (Version 4.0 or higher) to view it. You are purchasing a copyrighted book. Your purchase gives you and your immediate family the right to use it. Please respect the copyright.
If you are still undecided, download the first 3 chapters by clicking HERE.The sample of Husband's Guide is an Acrobat file and you will need the free Acrobat Reader (Version 4.0 or higher) to view it. This offer is entirely free. I won't even collect your email address. I'm sure you will recognize the value of this information if you are at all involved with someone who has codependent tendencies. Whether you decide to order the book or not, I wish you well in your life's adventure.
Thank you for considering this offer.
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Chapter
Titles
Preface
Codependence (and Depression)
No Big Deal!
First the Bad News
The Great Adventure
Talk Talk Talk
Scripts from the Past
When Love Isn't
No Praise for Praise
Back Off
Privacy
To Enable or Not to Enable
What Did I Do Now?
She Knows What You Are Thinking
The Childish Within
Conclusion
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